*You need to make sure you are as comfortable in your new
environment as possible. Instead of reaching for that bottle of headache medicine,
consider aromatherapy, treating yourself to a massage,
or meditation.
Leaving your old home can be depressing, and a common reaction to depression is
the loss of appetite. Not eating properly will lower your immune system, so
make sure you maintain a nutritional diet (a little exercise never hurt anyone
either) or none of the following aides will make any difference.
Stress Reliever #1: Aromatherapy
Aromatherapy is the natural use of plants and essential oils in order to help
establish physical and emotional well being. Although perfume oils may smell
great, they will not provide the therapeutic benefits that essential oils will.
Only essential oils are derived from the true plant. Perfume oils are
artificially created. Shampoos, bath oil, perfumes, and body oils are just a
few of the many forms oils can be used in for aromatheraputic
purposes.
AromaWeb is the most extensive web site I've found
providing everything from the history of aromatherapy, to a list of 26 common
oils and their benefits. This site also provides nearly 30 detailed, easy to
follow recipes including cures for high stress.
You can usually find the essential oils required for aromatherapy at your local
health/vitamin store, but if you're having trouble getting what you need, visit
Whole Foods on-line at: http://www.wholefoods.com/market/2.9/index.html
If making your own remedies doesn't sound appealing, you can also find
pre-mixed aromatherapy solutions from Whole Foods, too.
Solution #2: Massage
Getting a massage from the right person can help ease
tension. There are countless people trained in massage whose prices will range
anywhere from $15 to $115. For a less expensive massage, consider calling up a
local massage school. Usually the students are still learning, and will offer
discounted sessions. Just be careful, you don't want to end up in a massage
parlor that offers the "Special Full Body Massage." Make sure you are
comfortable with your massage therapist and know about their qualifications. If
you aren't comfortable with the therapist, then you'll get tense, and that
would certainly be a waste of money, now wouldn't it? Some people can't stand
the thought of having someone else touch them, or can't bring themselves to get
partially undressed in front of a near stranger. This doesn't mean you cannot
enjoy massage! Amazon.com offers countless books about the art of self massage.
Solution #3: Meditation
I know that when some people hear the word "meditation" they
immediately envision some emaciated little old man wrapped in a sheet sitting
Indian style on a mountain top humming "OHMMMM." Try to be open minded. It's so much more than that! While meditation
can be used as a way to recognize and correct your inner strengths and
weaknesses, it can also be used to simply relax by focusing on your breathing
rather than your problems. Here's something that's easy to do, and that works
beautifully:
Lie flat on your back on top of the covers in your bed, or on the floor.
Clear your mind. You've been stressed out all day, and you can let yourself be
stressed out later, but allow the next few minutes only for pure, calm
thoughts.
You are going to do "isolations." This is where you select one
section of your body, isolate it in your mind, and help it relax starting with
your feet.
Focus on all the tension in this body part. Give it a color. Now start taking
in deep breaths in through your nose. Let them out slowly and smoothly through
your mouth. When you breathe out, visualize the tension (whatever color you've
made it to be) leaving your body through your breath. When you breathe in,
choose another color to represent serenity and relaxation, and visualize it
replacing the tension color.
A superb site to visit to help you with this is:
http://www.selfhypnosis.com
Once you've filled your feet with this color, move up. Repeat steps 5 through 8
until you've reached your head, making sure to visualize the unstressed body
parts in the color you chose.
When you've finished... if you've really concentrated and kept the energy
focused, you should feel a relaxing buzz. Enjoy this feeling, and keep it as
long as you like. As you get more experienced, you'll be able to maintain the
feeling of relaxation while you visualize your "happy place."
Stop laughing, cynics. It will work only if you allow it to. Anyway, your
"happy place" can be a place only you know about. Mine is usually in
a butterfly garden. Imagine yourself in this place, and let your mind go free.
Just make sure you keep the concentration and you don't start thinking about
anything that will ruin the relaxation. For example, don't let your
ex-boyfriend creep into your virtual butterfly garden, or a mean boss, or
whatever else was bothering you that day. Give yourself this moment to feel
good. You deserve it.
Too "hippie new-age" for you? Well, you can
also relax quickly and calmly through a simple deep breathing exercise. Think
about smokers when they're stressed out. They take long, deep drags off of the
cigarette or hot box it. You know why? Because part of the reason they feel
like they need to smoke when they're stressed is because their bodies are
craving not only the nicotine, but the long deep breaths. (Realizing that alone
really helped me quit!) So, if you feel overwhelmed, just pick a focal point
and do some deep breathing. Try pyramid breathing. It's simple, quick, and it
works:
1. Breathe in and count to one second.
2. Breathe out and count to one second.
3. Breathe in and count to two seconds.
4. Breathe out and count to two seconds...
You get the idea. Do this all the way up to thirteen. It slows down your heart
rate, and gives you a minute to think about nothing more than your breathing.
These are simple, affordable solutions to alleviate the stress that comes along
with a move to a new home. Visit http://www.leonard-wherley.com for even more
great tips on dealing with stress. You need to be comfortable with your
environment, so do what you can to avoid unhappiness.
Written by Kate Kemp